You’re hanging out with your loved one watching TV and all of sudden you are inundated with jewelry commercials and the-oh-so-surprised look on the young ladies face as he pops the big question. An uncomfortable silence falls over the room. Even couples who've been married for 20 years feel the unnatural pressure of trying to do something romantic on command. He’s thinking ‘is that what she expects?’ She’s thinking ‘is there something wrong with me (us) if he doesn't deliver?’ And all in all, you were a happy, cuddle on the couch, intimate couple just 5 minutes ago.
I have never been a big fan of Valentine’s day. My birthday is only four days later and my focus has always been on those plans. Woohoo Party!!! But this year once those sappy commercials started airing in January after all the new-years-resolution-weight-loss commercials subsided, I started to think…should I be more concerned with the level of heat my loved one shows in February? Is there something wrong with me because frankly, I don’t give a damn? I am a romance author after all, shouldn't I care? So I took a pole. And the answers shocked the hell out of me.
One person of the 30 responses I received loved Valentines Day. One person. Wow. In all fairness I have to mention, there were a handful of singles that said perhaps if they had someone, they might care. But the majority of the answers were along the lines of not caring. That in a healthy relationship, romance happens all year round, or should.
YES! I am normal. Ahem, I mean very interesting results.
So I suggest the next time one of those commercials comes on, you look at your significant other and think of the last time he rescued you when your car wouldn't start. Or brought home a strand of Halloween lights because he saw them and knows it's your fav holiday. Or listened to you complain about the coworker that drives you nuts for the 1,000th time, and instead of rolling his eyes, he tells you what a bitch she is and hands you a drink.
Love is made up of small moments, not big grandiose gestures. Don’t let a heart on the calendar, or actors on TV rob you of noticing the love in your life.
Rather than wishing you a happy V-day, I wish you a happy romance all year round.
I have never been a big fan of Valentine’s day. My birthday is only four days later and my focus has always been on those plans. Woohoo Party!!! But this year once those sappy commercials started airing in January after all the new-years-resolution-weight-loss commercials subsided, I started to think…should I be more concerned with the level of heat my loved one shows in February? Is there something wrong with me because frankly, I don’t give a damn? I am a romance author after all, shouldn't I care? So I took a pole. And the answers shocked the hell out of me.
One person of the 30 responses I received loved Valentines Day. One person. Wow. In all fairness I have to mention, there were a handful of singles that said perhaps if they had someone, they might care. But the majority of the answers were along the lines of not caring. That in a healthy relationship, romance happens all year round, or should.
YES! I am normal. Ahem, I mean very interesting results.
So I suggest the next time one of those commercials comes on, you look at your significant other and think of the last time he rescued you when your car wouldn't start. Or brought home a strand of Halloween lights because he saw them and knows it's your fav holiday. Or listened to you complain about the coworker that drives you nuts for the 1,000th time, and instead of rolling his eyes, he tells you what a bitch she is and hands you a drink.
Love is made up of small moments, not big grandiose gestures. Don’t let a heart on the calendar, or actors on TV rob you of noticing the love in your life.
Rather than wishing you a happy V-day, I wish you a happy romance all year round.
